05 June 2012

Rufus Griscom and Alisa Volkman: It's time to explode 4 taboos of parenting

Though I am not a parent, this lecture still provided some useful insights. Taboo 1 was particularly insightful. The taboo is, “You can’t say you didn’t fall in love with your baby in the first minute [you saw them].” Conventional wisdoms says that you love your child the same from the moment they arrive on forever. Alisa commented (and they have a chart to show) that her love for their first child increased over time. Rufus, on the other hand, noticed that he loved their son less 6 months after birth but started an exponential increase a year after birth, meeting Alisa at about year two and remaining in step with her.

Here is the great insight: as Rufus made the observation of his reduced and then skyrocketed love, Ailsa commented that she thought this might be because there was little Rufus could do to tend for their new son during those first months. Later, as their son got older, Rufus could care for and play with him more, thus increasing his love for him.

Rufus Griscom and Alisa Volkman: It's time to explode 4 taboos of parenting (TED)

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